The way you dress makes a statement. Babydoll dresses, maxi skirts, and rompers are all fun and serve a wide range of purposes. But sometimes, you just need to dress to intimidate.
I’m not talking about scaring off creeps (PurpleWang covered that topic perfectly already); I’m talking about scaring off the other woman.
Everyone’s encountered the other woman. She’s your boyfriend’s ex who sends him a few too many texts to “catch up”. That flirt who thinks a conversation with your dude necessitates bicep touching (seriously?). The attention-obsessed frenemy. I’ve found myself in these situations too often; so I thought I’d share with you my tried and tested counterattack.
Part I: The Threads
This chick has her eyes on your man, so you’ll wanna dress to put all eyes on you. I call this dressing “guy-hot”. Now, this does not mean pairing a teensy-weensy body-con dress with sky-high stilettos. Sure, you’ll have his attention, but “daddy issues” is not the message we’re going for. Looking guy-hot is about looking damn good, but also looking like you don’t give a damn. Some examples:
- The black leather jacket (zippers preferable): This look screams “I RUN this”. Which you do.
- Those skinny jeans: The pair that works magic on your ass. You know the ones.
- Chunky ankle boots: Obviously, adding height ramps up the intimidation factor. I’m a tall girl (like 5’10” tall) and even I’m throwing on 4-inch heels. A death stare looks way better when it’s pointed downward.
Above all else, play up your strengths. Got great legs? Rock some daisy dukes with statement pumps and a long-sleeve top. Rather flaunt your chest? Pop on a V-neck tank with an empire waist (helloooo cleavage); for maximum contrast, cover up with skinny jeans. Obviously, what I’m suggesting isn’t church appropriate—but hey, I’m all about results.
Part II: The Hair and Makeup
Let’s talk about hair. You’re going to want to pump up the volume. The whole “sex hair” get-up never hurt a girl trying to be the center of attention. If you have naturally straight hair, I have one word for you: Tease! Back-comb, spritz with dry spray for texture, and repeat to your desired height. If your hair’s naturally curly, go au naturel! It’ll add to the wild, yet laidback look you’ve got going on.
On to makeup: I even out my complexion, go for subtle pink lip, and then get serious with eyes. Those eyes need to be prepared to both throw daggers at the frenemy as well as some serious flirty glances to your dude. So get dramatic. Line the inner lash lines (upper and lower) and finish with several coats of mascara. With your death stares, she’ll be sure to keep her filthy paws off his silky drawers.
Part III: The AT-TI-TUDE
Looking the part is only half the battle – the rest is how you handle yourself when faced with Cruella. I get the whole “keep your enemies closer” truism, but I prefer avoiding fakeness as much as possible. Alternately, being catty is just going to come off like you’re super insecure about your boyfriend (even though you kind of are). Best way to go is ambivalence: Be cordial when you’re in the same conversation, but when you’re not, you’ve got "99 problems but a bitch ain’t one.”
Unlike some girls who start full-on catfights, I prefer to maintain a DGAF attitude at all times. Even if she has the nerve to flirt after seeing how uber hot you look, give the whole situation a Cher-style “WHATever”, grab your friends, and hit the dance floor. After all, you can always count on other dudes gawking to win back your boyfriend’s attention.
There you have it—my guide to scaring off the other woman. I hope it treats you as well as it’s treated me over the years. I’d love to know—what tactics do you use? Tell me in the comments!