This is how taking compliments usually goes for me:
Complimenter: “You look good in high waisted shorts!”
Me: “Oh [self-critical pause] haha no…I feel like I look weird in them.”
I am one of the many who do not know how to take a compliment. I’m 1. self-deprecating, 2. non-braggy, and 3. too self-aware, which results in awkward, non-acceptance or avoidance of compliments. Even if it’s something minor like “Your cookies taste good,” I get all kinds of awkward about it. “…Thanks?”
This is what I think has happened to us self-critical, shy people who don’t know how to take a compliment. We’ve been sucked into this idea that we have to be self-deprecating because mentally putting ourselves down is “humbling”. Kind of like how Lindsay Lohan joins the group and says “Um, I have really bad breath in the morning?” in Mean Girls. In reality, putting ourselves down is not humble. In fact, it’s an unhealthy cycle. It’s in good health to take a compliment because how often are we told that we’re not good enough in the media? A lot.
Chictopia is a site where everyone is giving compliments. Even though I sometimes don’t say thank you to every compliment (because I don’t want it to translate to “Psh, I know I look awesome. Thanks for the reminder!”), I’m so glad to be a part of a supportive community. Giving and receiving positive compliments is a good thing, and I don’t think anyone should stop because it doesn’t seem cool or humble enough to do so.
So how do you take a compliment? Are you too self-critical or shy? Would love to hear what you have to say in the comments!