My name is Chrissina and I’m from New Zealand. I’m 19-years-old and I’m kind of lost with what to do with my life. I love fashion and makeup and dressing up, it’s the only thing I feel I love! And on my day off from work I love to read blogs and look at YouTube and Lookbook, especially yours! My question is, can I do this for the rest of my life? I keep changing my mind on what I want to do. I guess I’m just scared but of what? I don’t know? I’m sorry for this but whenever I’m on your blog and stuff I feel like you can help me get over this and tell me where I should go and where I should start. How did you do it? Please get back at me! I will love to hear from you.
Thank you for time <3
It’s funny you should write to me because just this morning I peeled myself off the floor, called my mother and proclaimed my life hopeless.
Welcome to your twenties.
At 22-years-old, I go to bed every night asking myself the same questions you do. Currently, I cringe at the thought of my job being a career, whimper at my bank statement and sleep on a couch (but let’s not get into that). I’ve spent five years in customer service, three years in retail, two summers at an insurance company and served my time as an intern. My life may not exactly be in order but I can assure you this – you’re not alone.
You have plenty of time. The good news is that you’re just getting started and there’s no need to feel panicked. You can decide whether or not to go to post-secondary school, switch majors, work dead-end jobs, blog about all of this and lie to your relatives about your life (which you most certainly will). Just make sure that you’re doing something so you don’t feel like you’re really doing nothing.
Therefore, don’t be lazy. It’s easy to stay in bed, waste away on Tumblr, hibernate in the winter and promise to eventually get off your ass (welcome to my life January through March). However, it’s just as easy to begin a new course, hobby or start working somewhere exciting. Hey, the course may be pointless, the hobby useless and the job a bore but if you aren’t doing something you’ll never make mistakes.
And mistakes are essential to learning. It was only natural for me to study journalism after high school because I enjoy writing. Unfortunately, I ended up disliking the program and quickly gave up the dream of becoming a reporter. That doesn’t mean that I stopped writing because of a roadblock. Instead, I started a blog and ventured into a new direction.
Therefore, don’t give up on the things you love. So, you enjoy fashion, makeup and dressing up (like duh, who doesn’t?). You can do this for the rest of your life but making a career out of it may be tricky. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible. There’s a ton of jobs offered in each category – stylist, make-up artist, fashion designer etc. Just make sure to take your time, do some research, test out your options and find one that best suits you.
Having said that, don’t worry about others. My best friend (same age as myself) finished her thesis, got engaged, had a baby, bought a house and applied to Graduate School in just one year. During that time I slept on a couch so you can only imagine my dismay. The point to be made isn’t that I’m a failure at life but that everyone works at a different pace and disputing that fact is futile.
Regardless, don’t be scared. There’ll be times when nothing goes your way and you’ll swear the universe is conspiring against you. You’ll have to make tough decisions and face the consequences of each. Although this sounds terrifying, it’s also very liberating to take charge. You know yourself better than anyone so trust yourself to make the right decisions.
And try to remember to be patient. Success doesn’t happen overnight (but that doesn’t mean you can’t celebrate the little milestones).
Lastly, remember you’re not alone. We all go through this and we all get through it.
Need advice? Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org
By Zoe Badley
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