“I stay true to myself and my style, and I am always pushing myself to be aware of that and be original.” – Aaliyah, the late American singer
We identify ourselves to tangible (i.e., midi skirts, necklaces) and intangible (i.e., being kind, very social) things. Thus, when it comes to using clothing as a way of expression, clothes aren’t just clothes anymore – they become a part of our identity. So, what’s a girl to do when the love of her life does not love her fashion style? Does she break up with him, or put those Litas aside? Many of you Chictopians chimed in our forums discussing this ongoing issue. Discover what you and other fashionable Chictopians have to say on whether or not style has to be sacrificed for love.
DRESSING FOR MYSELF
Regardless of the current trends, if you’re not comfortable in what you’re wearing, whether they be fishnet stockings or plain white tees, then you’re definitely not dressing for yourself. When it comes to fashion outlets like Chictopia here, we like to think of ourselves as individuals with unique senses of style. As much as we like to belong to a group, a group is also made up of a plethora of unique individuals.
“I’ve never changed my style for anyone. Regardless, your style should not be altered by a relationship. Be yourself!” – Style Icon BlakeJacobsen
" Just like how we are, what we eat, our styles reflect our personalities and we shouldn’t change our personalities in order to please others." – Style Icon TheVagaBond
“Heels and fashion are women’s best friends so your man must love and respect your friends, if he doesn’t… leave him!” – Chictopian LA_Blog
“Be your fashionable self! I started wearing heels when I got over the fact that I’m taller than most boys. They need to drink more milk or something.” – Chictopian StyleNomad
MAYBE I’LL CHANGE FOR YOU…
While we’d like to think that we can completely stay true to our styles, it can be tricky when we get into a relationship. Due to the increased time shared together, there is a huge possibility that your sweetie may deter you from your original style – especially if his style doesn’t matches yours. It’s not necessarily a bad thing if his opinions are genuinely heartfelt (i.e., he doesn’t want you to get hurt wearing those 5" Litas). But, it’s another if he thinks you should just ditch your creepers because they’re plain creepy.
“There are certain trends that my boyfriend hates (i.e., puffy shoulders, high heels, socks with sandals) but he rarely convinces me [that] he’s right!” – Chictopian Airrad
“No I haven’t changed my style for my boyfriend; I have to thank him for encouraging me to make a style of my own. Also, he is shorter than me when I don’t wear heels but he is confident and proud to say that he has a taller woman.” – Chictopian Onirec
“[My boyfriend’s] fine with it and I think he’s actually proud that I look the way I look. And like me, he’s also a little bit crazy!” – Style Icon Aphrodite
“I probably would subconsciously tweak my style to sartorially match his aesthetic. I’m single but I would sacrifice my heels for [my] future boyfriend if he was that short (hopefully not!).” – Chictopian StyleNomad
SO, TO CHANGE OR NOT TO CHANGE?
There are a lot of factors that involve whether or not you should change your style for your significant other. Generally though, if you’re in a healthy relationship, no matter how ‘out there’ your outfit is, your significant other will eventually come into terms with your love for bold colours or food sweaters. It’s a different matter if your love for Jeffrey Campbells become a total obsession where you end up loving your shoes more than your honey. Since style heavily coincides with our identities, don’t change your style unless you’re comfortable with it because you’ll ultimately be uncomfortable with who you are!
How do you dress for your significant other? Let us know in the comments!
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By Crystal (watermoolen)
Main Image via The Sartorialist