Yes ladies (and gentlemen, even though this article isn’t really directed at you guys, unless you read my tips less literally!), we’ve all been there and done that. And if you haven’t: don’t worry, you will! Unless you don’t want to, no pressure! Don’t let anyone tell you you need to do anything you don’t feel like!
I’m rambling on, right? Ok, let’s try again:
we’ve all been there and done that: the first date. The sparks are flying, you are trying to imagine how he’d kiss you, his smell lingers in your nostrils, everytime you get a text message your heart skips a beat… I can still remember counting the minutes until his car would turn up on my parents’ driveway to whisk me away to a fantasy land where every song was in tune and all the colors would bring out his eyes…
I’m rambling again, aren’t I? Let’s get to the point! And the point is: IF you have a first date coming up, or if you just feel like fantasizing about a first date with a special someone and what you might wear on said occasion, here are some ideas!
Ride the romance – if ever there was an occasion to go sugary sweet and bask in all your feminine fantasies, this one is it. Who knows whether you’ll be telling your children about the first date you went on with their dad? So pick an outfit that is worth remembering, both for him and for you! And most guys love it when you play up your femininity, but BEWARE: this does NOT equal “play up your sexuality”. You are more than your boobs/butt/body, it’s your personality that should make him fall in love! Don’t worry, I’m not telling you to button that blouse all the way up, just let your intuition speak to find that delicate line between “sexy” and “pretty”. There is a time and place for sexy, but allow both of your feelings to blossom and let him use his imagination a bit first! Besides, guys can only focus on one thing at a time. Wear a massive cleavage, and he’ll probably not hear a word of the intelligent and witty things you’re saying. And when your kids ask their dad what he remembers of your first date, you don’t want him to tell them “BOOBAGE”, amirite? Take a cue from chichichicjb in her perfectly feminine outfit. I don’t need to explain why seeing this outfit makes ME want to ask HER on a first date?
Be prepared – no, I’m not referring to birth control (but yes, be prepared for that too), I’m talking about the element of surprise that always is present when going on a first date. Sure, you might have been asked out to dinner, but who knows where the night might take you! Hours of strolling on moonlit streets, bowling, dancing, … be sure to wear something that would be right for as MANY possible occasions as possible. Comfortable shoes, a cardigan for when it gets chilly, and a skirt that doesn’t make you fear for indecent exposure when throwing a bowling ball. I really give this tip for EVERY single one of my “what to wear” articles, but I guess you can look at me as yer mom giving you practical advice. After all, clothes are fun, but they are still meant to keep you warm/cool/comfortable. Glammythug looks sassy, comfy and cute in her shorts and floral tank. Shorts are perfect for a multitude of occasions, boys find them hot, and they give you a bit of an action girl appeal. Keiko_lynn is wearing a romantic little dress, but she layered it with some black tights, comfortable boots and a warm, water proof leather jacket AND an umbrella. Now THAT’S being prepared.
Let YOU shine through – this advice can be taken in two very distinct ways: on one hand, I’m telling you to refrain from piling on accessories and fashion forward awesomeness. Like I said, guys are easily distracted and they usually need a little while to get used to new things. Harem pants? Guys hate them. Fake geek glasses? Guys don’t get it. Gothic fashion? Guys are scared by it. If you’re the type of girl that likes jeans, don’t go out of your way to put yourself in an extravagant look, just to come across as interesting. Meganroses’ outfit is very basic: some perfectly fitting jeans, a simple top that lets her own beauty shine and some natural, no fuss make up and locks. ForeverPEACE is a good rolemodel too in her basic striped tank and cute skirt. A perfectly pretty look, and very low on the fuss-factor. Keep it simple without restyling yourself into something you’re not. And with that last sentence, I’m contradicting myself to a certain degree. If your style isn’t simple, don’t simplify yourself just for some guy. After all, you are a friggin cool person with a friggin cool personal style, and the fact that you are going on a date with this dream guy must mean that this dream guy thinks you are awesome just the way you are. Show off that amazing personality through your style! Jerseyferrari has a sexy, in your face, colorful style, and why should she dress a different way just because some guy might not like it? BULLOCKS I say! By showing your true colors from the very start, your date will know what he’s getting into. After all, our style is the perfect tool to discern certain character traits upon first glance. Judging a book by its cover isn’t all bad.
PS excuse my rant. Fun fact: I’m a huge chatterbox in real life too, but whenever I’m in love with a guy, I get REALLY timid and shy. Like, I don’t even recognize myself anymore. My boyfriend had to break down some serious barriers.
Do you have some funny or sweet new romance stuff you want to share? Please do!