Fashion is subjective.
Fashion is mostly based on opinion and a person’s taste when it comes to what to wear. Like other things in life, people have different opinions and taste, which allows fashion to have different interpretations. I am not an expert when it comes to fashion. I don’t claim to have advice for people nor do I try to critique someone’s look based on what I think I know.
I shouldn’t let words bother me because I know that not everybody will have the same opinion as me. I just get disappointed when some people are so blunt, so hurtful in their thoughts that they choose not to see how it would affect other people.
A member of my family always tells me that I’m big. I’m often compared to the other Filipinas in my community and how small they all are. Every aspect of my wardrobe is usually nitpicked. It’s always “you shouldn’t wear that, it makes your thighs look big” or “you shouldn’t wear that it makes you look pregnant.”
Then I see a comment in the forum belittling one of my style icons. A comment said that girls with big butts shouldn’t wear short shorts & her thighs are huge.
Whoa! That’s pretty much a description of me. It’s pretty much an insult towards me even though it wasn’t mean to be that way.
There are different body types. Period.
Not everybody is skinny. Not everybody is average. Not everybody is fat.
The challenge is to make yourself look presentable and to have your personality shine through your outfits — no matter what size you are.
I am sorry that I have a big butt, but I still would like to wear shorts.
I don’t see why I shouldn’t when my butt cheeks aren’t hanging out.
I am sorry that I have big thighs, but I still would like to wear body con & pencil skirts.
I don’t see why I shouldn’t as long as it contours to my body, is the right size & fit, and doesn’t make excess skin and tissue stick out.
I am sorry that I don’t have a six pack, but I still would like to wear tight pieces.
I don’t see why I shouldn’t as long as I don’t have a “muffin top.”
I am sorry that I don’t look like you or fit into your image of what a fashionable person should look like, but I still would to wear what I want to wear and not what society or anybody else dictates that I should wear because I’m not the size you expect me to be.
I don’t see why I shouldn’t as long as I’m true to myself.
Actually, I take it back.
I’m not sorry.
Because I will always like fashion and dress the way I dress whether I’m a size 0, 10, or 20.
Because as long as I’m comfortable with who I am and what I look like, the confidence that I feel when I’m dressed in my clothes is all that matters, not what critics think. :)