love-hate thing

Updated on Jan 04, 2010
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i have this love and hate thing going on with chictopia. i don’t really want to give a big fuzz about it since it’s just a site and really, the ‘love’ outweighs the ‘hate’ stuff. but you know, just to let it out there and express my two cents in it i just want to say how i get sad when my pictures go missing in the style gallery. i know i’ve had this concern before and really, i don’t want to stress about it since i don’t mind not being there. i think that the comments i receive express more meaning than me not being able to stay in the gallery. plus, i created a blog now and at least there, no one is really going to ‘eliminate’ me from a ‘gallery’.

i used to feel bad when i don’t get to see my fave chictopians posting here. correct me if im wrong and this is merely my observation, but i notice that when style icons get their ‘label’, all of a sudden they lessen their posts or something. im not saying this happens to all the style icons, don’t get me wrong. it’s just that when i see how many style icons chictopia has, i find that most of them do not post here anymore and have developed great independent blogs already. i don’t exactly know if that’s a good or bad thing for the site. personally, i’m happy for them and it’s all great since now that i have my own blog, i can easily follow them thru it. however, there’s this part of me that actually fears (for lack of proper word for it) that one day i’ll be one of those chictopians that will suddenly ‘disappear’ in the scene and concentrate in my own blog. even more disheartening is the fact that i have noticed some weird (not so nice) things happening in here and i feel like those will make me even more persuaded to just focus on my blog.

you see, im voicing this out because i really love this site. it’s been a year since i joined the community. it has taught me to fix up myself more and given me confidence to just wear whatever i want. it has inspired me to look great and has motivated me through the people i’ve met here. if i really didn’t care for the site, i would have just totally abandoned it and focus on my blog, right? but the outfits are inspiring, the site is user-friendly and the people in here are so kind and sweet and it would be disheartening for me to ‘leave’. i think that chictopia is a wonderful site but it can still improve…

by the way… no.. i’m not leaving. i just thought of posting this because this is what i feel and i think it’s a free world. i mean, whether if you do have the same opinions or not, i completely respect you. maybe, you can even put some sense to me if this whole thing is just gibberish for you and not making any sense… :)

ANYWAY, on to my ‘love’ thing with this site is the fact that my fave chictopians get recognized!!!
Congratulations to all the style icons for this month!!!!
special shoutouts to my fave ones: flattery, thehautepursuit and keiko_lynn
YAY!!! :D

oh yeah, went out to a family event today so for more of that and less dramatic posts like this (haha!).. please visit my blog

Comments (50)

nennen35
nennen35 on January 27
simple and chic!
g_vasques
g_vasques on January 11
u look so good! i u've a blink smile :D
Jasna
Jasna on January 08
each other mean way more than anything else! U have a stunning smile, I always say that and I mean it and of course a stunning outit too! = my chic vote xxxx
libys11
libys11 on January 08
im glad to hear your opinion here jasna.. im glad to know that it wasn't only me noticing this and that people like you support me. thanks a lot. your support means a lot! stay sweet and chic!! and stay blogging here and in your own blog i love reading thru both! :D
Jasna
Jasna on January 08
everyone who supports me on CHictopia. This site has changed alot, not for the better and there are still people that comment and dont vote, but thats a whole other issue : ) I have been here almost the same time as you, I have seen how ur style has changed and you have really become an inspiration, we can all see that so dont worry we support you and all the friendships we have made with...
Jasna
Jasna on January 08
omg, I cant believe I missed ur post- Hun- I soooooo agree with u!!!!! I am so glad someone said something, because I noticed this ages ago with the Style Icon thing and esp now with the Style Gallery- its started happening to me now too : ( I have a busy schedule, I dont have alot of time and yes after having a blog I do spend more time on that, but I always try my best to comment and supports
MissCaprice
MissCaprice on January 07
love all the outfit...u look slimmer, yes?beautiful......
libys11
libys11 on January 07
aaw thanks.. :) i feel like i got fat though! hahaha!
jeanmagboo
jeanmagboo on January 07
Looove this get-up Sybs! Superb scarf and boots! Chic! :D
libys11
libys11 on January 07
thanks jean!!!! :D *hugs*
nicolette
nicolette on January 07
I totally agree with what you said! I enter the gallery and get deleted afterwards very often, and when a pic is finally there, it's on page 10...eh, well...I hope I will grow on chicness as I stay in this community. I love your boots and the scarf!!!
BethanyD
BethanyD on January 08
My first 5 pages of outfits almost never made it to the style gallery! It was frustrating, but stick with it is my advice:) sorry your blog is becoming like a forum Libbys!
libys11
libys11 on January 07
aaww don't worry i started like that too! :D chictopia really helped me with my style!! thanks a lot for your opinion, dear! :D
paulinabelle
paulinabelle on January 06
ive noticed this too girl... and its a little annoying. i mean- my entry that actually won a prize in the true religion contest wasnt put into the style gallery until page 12. if the editor is being so critical as to not put in a winning entry, it makes me sad to think of all the great looks im missing from fellow chictopians. i think great photos are being removed and its dissapointing.
libys11
libys11 on January 06
omg!! that is so true! i remember you mentioning it in the forums. when you won, i was so happy because, it just proved that some great outfits really get taken out. it is sad that we might be missing great posts due to that. oh well. all we can do is hope that they do something with it. anyway, thanks a lot for sharing your thoughts. i appreciate it! :D
paulinabelle
paulinabelle on January 06
you're not alone hun. on another note, have a mentioned that i LOVE your smile? its so gorgeous and happy! keep smiling. :]
ClothesHorse
ClothesHorse on January 06
You look cute (and very happy). :) The gallery thing is interesting...I've been hearing about that in the forums and I wonder what is up. On Style Icons leaving: I think a number of would-be bloggers use Chictopia (and Lookbook and Modepass, etc) as a launching pad for their blog; a way to get followers quick. I don't think they see this site as a community...
thefieldsofelysium
thefieldsofelysium on January 13
agreed. also, i find that as blogs become more popular and featured (in news, magazines, etc.), posts become less frequent. probably either to discourage people from expecting daily updates (which they may not be able to commit to) or because they're so busy with real-world prospects (e.g. modeling, collaborations) obtained via blogging. anyway, to Libys: love this blend of winter & summer styles!
libys11
libys11 on January 06
yeah. that makes perfect sense. that's so true and you know what? im so glad that you are one of those style icons who really post in this site still. i love how you always bring life into your posts for EIU and your chictopia. stay chic, dear!!! i love looking thru your chictopia and reading thru your blog! :D thanks for your comment. i appreciate it! :D
KristaniA
KristaniA on January 06
i cant believe i missed this post. i cant agree more with everything you wrote in this post. im starting to doubt the integrity in choosing the style icons. i would like to point out that the rule has recently changed. in the end, its up to the editors' choice, not the # of fans the candidates are able to generate. (cont.)
BethanyD
BethanyD on January 08
I think it's so unfair that kristania was supposed to be a style icon! She is so worthy!
libys11
libys11 on January 06
im glad you and i can follow each other's blogs already. and really.. for me, you're still one of those chictopians who really are deserving of that style icon label. but anyway, let's just move beyond it since we're mature beings and what's more important are the people who appreciate us and continue to really support us both here and in our blogs. stay chic dear! and i appreciate your reply! :D
libys11
libys11 on January 06
i totally agree!!!! i mean, as much as the other style icons have really good outfits and all, only a few of them really stay here in the site and contribute to it with meaning. im pretty sure the editors notice that but i don't know why they really haven't addressed it. *sighs* oh well. as much as you have had a 'bad experience', i really don't want to stress over this thing already.
KristaniA
KristaniA on January 06
I think it's unfair and bias. Some "style icons" never contributed to Chictopia except for posting their looks. Once they got the title, they left. Of course, this doesnt apply to everybody. Some of my fav style icons still post regularly. They are the TRUE style icons. I think Chictopia should be looking into this. I wont count on it though as I already have a bad experience with the admin :p
jessy_H
jessy_H on January 06
what's important is i get inspired and i continue to inspire our fellow chictopians. Also, I do hope that our style icons wouldn't just disappear like that cus this is where they came from so yeh.. also, some of the people i know here are style icon potentials yet they never even get nominated. oh well. Regardless, I still think you always look great :) keep on doing what you're doing :) kisses!
libys11
libys11 on January 06
aawww thanks alot!!!! i appreciate your comment. it's so nice to hear that you feel the same way. i thought i was the only one thinking about all these things. but anyway, i have to agree with you.. i've gotten to a point that it's the people's comments that matter more than the whole gallery thing. :D thanks so much for the support! :D stay chic!
jessy_H
jessy_H on January 06
I have the same issues. most of my photos don't stay in the gallery as well even though I've received more than enough chic votes. I thought i was the only one but oh well. I'm happy and content with how many votes and sweet comments i get for every post. I wouldn't really bother whether they think my shots are gallery worthy or not...
breelee12
breelee12 on January 06
you look great, and i know how you feel, the same thing happens to me all the time, and i feel like once something makes in into the gallery and nothing is wrong with the pic, it should stay there. most of my pics have been taken ut and its kinda discouraging
libys11
libys11 on January 06
i was a bit discouraged at first, but then i thought to myself that beyond the gallery.. it's the comments that really matter.. :D i love receiving wonderful compliments from people like you. thanks a lot, dear! :D
peanutbutter
peanutbutter on January 06
even though you're wearing shorts, you still look cozy!
candydoll
candydoll on January 06
i've got my friends here at chictopia who inspire and support me. hee, hugs! love yaaa! <3
candydoll
candydoll on January 06
youre so cute sybil! about the pictures being deleted on the style gallery, i got a few photos that were deleted too i guess. hahaha! actually, i dont know if a lot has been deleted but i noticed one time i just uploaded a photo (specifically, the one im wearing yellow jumper) and it has been uploaded on the style gallery and was deleted after few moments. i was shocked but it's okay as long as...
libys11
libys11 on January 06
i have had the same experience and well.. i dont mind it now.. i used to fuss over it but naahh.. i don't wanna get stressed! and i totally agree, the comments makes more sense and really makes my day! thanks a lot, dear!
thischicksgotstyle
thischicksgotstyle on January 06
Love the scarf!
chicfaced
chicfaced on January 05
i love that scarf and the tights/shorts combo - it looks great on you. I'm still too chicken to do that (short legs)!
libys11
libys11 on January 05
i have short legs too!!! i keep it short everywhere though just so i don't break up my legs. short shorts and short boots! :D thanks for the comment! :D
Leproust
Leproust on January 05
Love your cowl scarf!
SimplyHope
SimplyHope on January 05
I love how you paired everything together very chic:)
Kaie
Kaie on January 04
I have like 5 % of my pictures made it to the Style Gallery and were kept there. It's kinda frustrating. But I enjoy the comments, and sharing my thoughts, and browsing that I don't care if I have pictures in the Style Gallery or not. Love this outfit!
libys11
libys11 on January 05
i super agree!!! i think the whole gallery thing shouldn't be a major issue. i enjoy getting comments from people whether im in the gallery or not. :D thanks dear! :D
Bennie52491
Bennie52491 on January 04
SUPER CUTE N ADORABLE
districtofchic
districtofchic on January 04
I'm so glad you're starting a blog. I love the wonderful posts that you do and I appreciate your thoughtful comments, too. I hope you keep posting here, anyway, though!
libys11
libys11 on January 05
i will keep posting here. :D im done school so im not as regular of a poster unlike before when i used to dress up everyday for university. im so glad to have been able to start a blog. finally! :D thanks for your comments and blog links! yay! :D
mitzicocoa
mitzicocoa on January 04
The scarf and sweater look great together! Also, I totally agree with you on pictures being removed from the style gallery... kind of silly.
libys11
libys11 on January 05
thanks dear! i know. it's weird coz like the others, i notice that some pictures can have so many votes and yet they don't stay.. oh well.. :D im over it! :D im just happy i get to receive wonderful comments from people like you here in this site! :D
jazzyhwang
jazzyhwang on January 04
i totally agree with you! i hate it when girls do that too, and yet starting my own blog, i can sort of see how their blog can come before chictopia, especially when most of them are enjoying such great success. but i hope i (or you) never become one of those people because one should never forget her roots. all the comments i am getting on my blog are people from here!
libys11
libys11 on January 05
yes!! exactly!!! i really try my best to still keep updated with both my chictopia and my blog. now that im not so busy, i can still manage, but we'll see how it goes when i do get a regular job. i still want to stay active here becoz the site really has made me develop my style. and i got to meet people like you who are ever so sweet and sincere! :D thanks so much jasmine!! :D
jazzyhwang
jazzyhwang on January 04
and like you said, it's a wonderful community to be a part of! (: anyway...BACK to the outfit: CUUTE! love those jean shorts on you and your belt :D simple yet soo chic!
Fashion_Things
Fashion_Things on January 04
nice!
splashofcolour
splashofcolour on January 04
I totally agree with what you've written in this post. I also get a bit sad when my pictures are removed. A lot of the time it seems that there is no reason for it, as neither of us (or a lot of other members who's photos get removed) are posting bad photos that come under the specified reasons for image removal. It's also good to see someone write what I've been thinking about the style icons.
libys11
libys11 on January 05
im so glad it wasn't only me who was thinking of those exact things both about the style gallery and the style icons.. i was beginning to think i was being too much of a skeptic! i really appreciate your comments, dear! thanks a lot! :)
splashofcolour
splashofcolour on January 04
It makes me wonder how many of them join just to get the title and exposure for their own blog and how many of them actually post here because they like the site. Obviously some still post regularly but most tend to just get the rewards and benefits and then hardly ever post anymore. Also, you look really lovely in this outfit. I love how the white stands out so brightly.
babydoll1982
babydoll1982 on January 04
BTW, I love white in winter, your outfit looks great!! Oh and and just to add to my last comment, all I've seen on the front page of Chitopia lately is winter stuff, I'd just like to put it out there that there are people on this site that live in other parts of the country where its super hot, a lil balance from the site managers would be nice! But I still totally love this place.
babydoll1982
babydoll1982 on January 04
Oh I know honey, I've been going through a similar thing. I totally loved Chictopia when I 1st got on here, I was lookin on it constantly. Then I got a lil sad & figured well I'll just do it for me & use it to prove to myself that I do have stuff to wear, on the days that I think I don't. All I've noticed is that once your at the top, its easy to stay, but its super super hard to get there!
libys11
libys11 on January 05
that's kinda true! i love this site and got really hooked. the other issues involved here are just too petty to really spend my time on. for your 2nd comment, can i just say that i totally love seeing tropical outfits against all the snowy ones.. it's a good and fresh break from the gloomy winter outfits.. :D thanks for the comment, dear!
CathyHill
CathyHill on January 04
First of all, very cute outfit. Love the bright white top with that scarf and the leggings with the shorts! Secondly, I totally agree with you about love/hate chictopia. I'm still somewhat new here and I'm not completely sure how style gallery works, but I've had pretty much all of my pics deleted. Sure, it has made me feel bad, like being told you're not good enough, but I try to let it go.
libys11
libys11 on January 05
thanks for voicing out your opinion. i really appreciate it. and i am more comfortable to know that other people feel the same way as me. :D
libys11
libys11 on January 05
i think being able to move beyond the whole style gallery issue is the more mature thing to do. personally, i've learned that i shouldn't be discouraged just because of how other people are trying to judge me. i have my own style and i love it. i totally agree with you!!! i got over the whole thing because i thought it was too big of deal as well :D
CathyHill
CathyHill on January 04
After all, this isn't highschool and I'm not going to let one person tell me I'm not as good as them.
KelleyAnne
KelleyAnne on January 04
Great photos and outfit as usual:) You have such a beautiful smile!
IslandChic77
IslandChic77 on January 04
so cute
Luciae
Luciae on January 04
Very cute!
TaylorSterling
TaylorSterling on January 04
cute shorts look!! I love it
mila
mila on January 04
beatiful outfit,sweety!
MzUnicaHija
MzUnicaHija on January 04
I have the same scarf but I havent even put it to a good use yet. I just love love your SMILE!
libys11
libys11 on January 04
thanks for the wonderful compliments! :D it's glad to see you back here! it can be quite disheartening, but i just really love dressing up and fashion itself so i guess it's just a better reason for staying here. :D this site is so inspiring! :D
MzUnicaHija
MzUnicaHija on January 04
Yes I have to agree with you with the STYLEICON thing that was one of the reason I stopped posting but I made a turn around & I am BACK!
youngbones
youngbones on January 04
great outfit, i think i've said it before but i love your boots. I agree, about the whole style icon and blogs thing. In my case, I don't think I would have the time to create and update a blog on a regular basis, chictopia just makes it so simple and easy.
libys11
libys11 on January 04
thanks!!! you see, in my case, i rarely had time last year. that's why i remained here with a chictopia account. but now that im done with school, i managed to actually get a blog not just for fashion stuff but more of for things that i generally enjoy (that i can't really share here). a blog can really be time consuming that's why i agree that chictopia makes it so much easier - 1 of its perks! :
navywife
navywife on January 04
i've noticed the same thing about style icons. not all, but most, when they become the icons, they only post like once every 2 weeks or once a month, when before they had posted everyday. and, i had to make a blog just to keep up with them on a daily basis, otherwise, i would never see what they wear! i can't exactly understand about the style gallery because i don't think i've ever been on it.
thefieldsofelysium
thefieldsofelysium on January 13
just stopping here to say that i think your style has a lot of personality (and the photos are of good quality) -- if the editors did indeed remove your photos from the gallery, then i consider it highly unjust!
libys11
libys11 on January 04
many people here are starting to think that the gallery is becoming to picky when they 'erase' posts from it. that's what's unfortunate. but from the many times i have been erased, i really just don't mind it now.. i just keep myself positive with all the wonderful comments i receive. like yours.. :D thanks so much dear! :D
libys11
libys11 on January 04
it's even good if the style icons get to post at all.. most of them just go from posting everyday to being gone. poof. oh well.. i dont wanna hate coz it still doesn't erase the fact that they do have amazing style and i am in awe of their outfits when i see them. anyway.. cheer up.. i dont think anyone really completely sucks in their outfits. (cont...)
navywife
navywife on January 04
ok. so, i guess i have been on style gallery, i just always get deleted. wow, my style must totally suck.... :((((
navywife
navywife on January 04
ps. adorable outfit, as always! :) seriously, you're one of favorites to follow. :))
ItsPaolaXoXo
ItsPaolaXoXo on January 04
aw im glad you're not leaving the site!!! i still dont understand what a style icon is though haha i just LOVE looking at people's outfits!
libys11
libys11 on January 04
ahaha! im glad to hear you just enjoy this site. a style icon are those people who get recognized every month for their style. i dont even know how to explain it (whether it's really style or popularity). anyway, yeah.. im not leaving the site. i still like it here.. :D
formocavo
formocavo on January 04
I agree with the love-hate thing with Chictopia. You're so right. Why are some of the photos missing from the Style Gallery? Oh well. I love love love your circle scarf by the way. I miss my AA circle scarf. Stupid me left it in a random bench at the Tokyo airport. :(
libys11
libys11 on January 04
the editors of the site normally would really sort thru the gallery. the whole explaination thing is in the forums. it's really confusing at times and discouraging for some chictopians. anyway, why did you leave the scarf?! omg! that's just so sad...
kirsty
kirsty on January 04
fab outfit x
BethanyD
BethanyD on January 04
Love the white top with those gorgeous shorts! I have a love hate relationship with chictopia too. Its snotty and rude to delete random people from the style gallery. And yeah, the style icons get so many views, they don't have to post very often to keep people interested.
libys11
libys11 on January 04
i would have to agree.. it's really a love hate thing, yes? im glad to know that im not alone and a number of people actually can relate.. :D thanks for your lovely comments all the time, dear!
deathbyplatforms
deathbyplatforms on January 04
i noticed the same thing too about some Style Icons who've suddenly made a quick disappearing act. It's like they just waited to get the title and *poof!*, they left just like that. anyhoo, love the shorts over tight. and your photos still convey to me that it's so cold out there. :?
libys11
libys11 on January 04
im really glad to hear that even a style icon like you notice that too. of course, you're totally not one of them because i never miss any of your awesome posts and outfits! :D thanks so much dear! and yes, it's still cold here and will be for a few months more.. haha!
SarahJaneR
SarahJaneR on January 04
I noticed this same things happening, and I know from experience about the whole style gallery thing. I have some photos on my blog with 30+ votes and they still didn't stay in the style gallery, but I figure if i have that many votes on an ensemble, then it must be pretty stylish then :) you always look fab to me :) love the scarf and boots btw!
libys11
libys11 on January 04
aaww thanks a lot! i know there has been a forum topic on this & since i've been having the style gallery concern for a long time already, i might as well just voice it out in one big post like this and see what happens. it has gotten to a point that i dont mind anymore especially since i've met really nice people here. getting in the gallery will only be a plus for me! thanks for your comment! :D
greenvases
greenvases on January 04
im new at posting my pics here @chictopia & i must agree w/ u, my fotos didnt show up at the style gallery! its a bit disappointing cuz one of the reasons of me having my own acct. here is to be seen 'maximizely' (if im saying it right) but theres nothing we can do abt that.. hahahaha.... thanks for voicing this out.
libys11
libys11 on January 04
im glad you appreciated my post. thanks a lot for adding me up too!! :D you're funny! :)
greenvases
greenvases on January 04
infairness ang chic mo dito girl!
kitschmoog
kitschmoog on January 04
pretty combination !
LyannePeri
LyannePeri on January 04
so cool...love it
froschface007
froschface007 on January 04
so cute...
Magz
Magz on January 04
you look very snuggly and warm =] lol
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