First of all I want to give you HUGE ((hugs))
And credit for enduring a life long life of pain and emotional agony.
You seem to be divided about what to do even though you KNOW your mom is emotionally unstable and toxic.
She’s BRAINWASHED U AND USED ANY EMOTIONS IN U TO WHEEL U IN.
DO NOT GO BACK HOME.
IF SHE KILLS HERSELF ITS NOT YOUR FAULT.
PLEASE DISCUSS THIS WITH A THERAPIST.
THEY WILL REAFFIRM THAT U SHOULDN’T BE IN THAT SITUATION.
LOVE AND HEALTH TO U.
FRIEND ME AND WE CAN TALK ANY TIME.
I have a friend who has a very similar, very complicated relationship with her family. Please don’t feel that you’re alone. There are people who understand and there are people who can help. I would look into finding a therapist or counselor who you can talk with. They will not pressure you into doing anything, but it’s always helpful to have someone to talk to about tough things.
I’m not a professional, but my best advice would be to cut ties with your family. Moving out was a good first step. Your mom may love you, but she shows it in a very strange way. For your own health and happiness, you should distance yourself until your mom gets help. Your mom is very unhappy, but it’s not your fault or your responsibility.
My grandmother is very manipulative and my mom had to cut ties for a while. They’ve finally started making peace with each other, but it’s taken a long while.
Be patient, don’t lose hope, and remember that sometimes hard things are for the best.posted about 4 years ago
you’re responsible for what you do honey, not for what others do.
you’re responsible for your own feelings, not the feeling felt by others.
you can be run over by a car, or god knows what else, no matter where we live – this is not a proper excuse to convince somebody to move to a place where they dont feel safe.
if you want to talk to somebody, i have the same username on Facebook – i’ll see your message there much faster than here.