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Helloooooo!

One of my good friend is going through a hard time because she just started dating this guy and this guy wants her to dress more like Brooke Hogan (I laughed but he is serious!). She is pretty tall but also got some booty and boobs.
Her boyfriend thinks that showing the womanly shape would be the way to go. However, she dresses more like…Zara, Californian casual, simple, clean — sorry I am not the best at describing stuff…
When she came out to have lunch with me wearing an Ed Hardy T-shirt, I literally had a tiny heart attack. It’s because it’s sooooo unlike her.

For me, it’s kinda hard to wrap my head around this idea of changing your style because your significant other wants it…

What are your opinions?

posted over 2 years ago
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natassiafortea
posts: 26

Only if its reasonable like if he says that I’m wearing something skanky, then I would follow his advice but I don’t wear skanky stuff. Thanks to my being petite, I can make even the sankiest outfits still look classy so I’ll just change my style for the most compelling reasons =)

posted about 1 year ago
 
YchieRiot
posts: 227

it depends,especially if i’m inspired by the person.. =) I dressed up for what i want and just having fun for what i wear!!! =) despite of any criticisms..LOL

posted about 1 year ago
 
himayapapaya
posts: 9

definitely not…I can be inspired by new things and maybe that will happen to occur, but I wouldn’t purposely change my fashion style ever…and i would like to think that my boyfriend wouldn’t care too much about what i’m wearing

posted about 1 year ago
 
SONIAP
posts: 332

he wears cords !!! so i need to change that , lol ,

posted about 1 year ago
 
im_a_salad
posts: 12

My boyfriend and I have the same style. My style is always laid back and he usually likes it so that’s never been an issue for me. :)

posted about 1 year ago
 
Beccasaurus
posts: 181

Not really
i would listen to his opinions but incorporate them in my own style mostly
my boyfriend likes how i dress though so i have no problems with this.
i borrow his band t-shirts sometimes and he thinks it looks super cute with tights
(he’s skinny so they aren’t too baggy on me)

posted about 1 year ago
 
kamiinettles44
posts: 116

Nope. I would listen, but it’s my style. If I were to change it, my style would no longer be mine, it would be his!

visit Above the Navel Style Blog

posted about 1 year ago
 
IamnotJessica
posts: 60

Not a chance. A guy should be with you for more than just aesthetics. The only reason why I would change an outfit for a guy is if it was too low cut or short. I mean I wouldn’t want him to feel uncomfortable if other people were looking. That’s not me being big headed either – British lads can be pretty pervy haha!!

posted about 1 year ago
 
AlinaS
posts: 654

no.even tough sometimes he finds some outfits/pieces strange, he always gets used to them and ends up wearing them as well (like clear wayfarers or “lay on” hats) .

he loves my style

posted about 1 year ago
 
AshleyEvelyn
posts: 22

I would ask him for his opinions on what I wear, but i would not completely change myself or my fashion style for him. That’s just me, & if he doesn’t accept it, then that’s not going to be my problem! Aha (:

posted about 1 year ago
 
PaigeBaker
posts: 12

Ill ring your friends Neck for you… I’d never change anything about myself for some BOY! he cant be that SIGNIFICANT IF HE WANTS HER TO BE UN TRUE TO HERSELF! tell her I said that. she needs to love herslef within first before she gose changing the outside

posted 8 months ago
 
JanelleEfe
posts: 303

Hellz freaking no. I might inadvertently dress prettier or more feminine, but I am so anti-being-controlled-by-others. Any boy that tries to make me change for him is barking up the wrong tree.

posted 8 months ago
 
shelbyguest
posts: 34

Not at all!
I have liked guys who liked me because i dressed completely different from them!
A guy should see your fashion sense as an extension of you, and even if you don’t match perfectly, why be normal?
I have blue hair but my boyfriend loves khakis and sperries, but together, we fit.

posted 8 months ago
 
airrad
posts: 63

It’s difficult to resist, especially if you really like the guy. But personal style should be beyond that and he should like you the way you are, including fashion sense.

posted 8 months ago
 
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posts: 7

Never. Personal style is just that. Personal.

posted 8 months ago
 
JaquelynAurora
posts: 79

never! love my boyfriend, yes, but there is no way I’d change anything positive about myself, that i love, for him. You should not change for a guy, especially physically.

posted 8 months ago
 
MiuSan
posts: 429

Well, if I would date John Galliano! lol

But for some dude, maybe not. I’d like for the guy to like how I dress, but I would not dress how he would want me to!
Besides most guys don’t have the greatest sense of style when it comes to girls. Lol Brooke Hogan!!

posted 8 months ago
 
sunshinerebe...
posts: 10

If a guy wants to date me, he gets to deal with what I wear. So there.
Although, if I’m being honest with myself, i know that when I was dating my high school boyfriend, I’d wear things I knew he liked over to his house. I don’t think that’s so bad. I mean, I liked these things too (a certain v-neck dress from urban outfitters comes to mind… fond memories), so it’s not like anyone was being inauthentic.
I think that’s the real issue. never lose authenticity :)

posted 8 months ago
 
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caramelfrap
posts: 4

Been there. Done that. Learned my lesson the hard way.

No one is worth losing your sense of who you are, and self worth. What I usually say to guys like this is — if you want a trophy go buy one.

posted 8 months ago
 
hadelicious
posts: 477

I probably wouldn’t, I used to get told to dress sexier and more revealing but hey if I’m not comfortable then I won’t do it!

posted 8 months ago
 
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posts: 34

I have, it’s really hard to get your personal style back afterwards.

posted 8 months ago
 
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freshlook
posts: 35

It’s true. Lots of girls change their style for their significant other or sometimes just guys in general. And usually the outcome is to look more plain, wear makeup that the guy likes (either less or sometimes more), and change from less form-fitting clothes to tight clothes. It’s crap. Just dress however makes you comfortable and feel good about yourself!

posted 8 months ago
 
miki_girl
posts: 85

I think that the guy should love her for the way she is. Clothes wise, personality wise, everything wise. By trying to modify the way she dresses, obviously, the guy isn’t the right person for him (if they are still dating, that is. Seeing as this was posted 2 years ago). A girl I know went through a similar situation once expect in her case, she was goth so always dressed in black and her friends were the ones who said that if she didn’t dress “normally”, they weren’t going to be her friends anymore..(>_<) She did end up starting to dress “normally” again. =\

posted 8 months ago
 
newamericanc...
posts: 530

ed hardy?? that’s so funny. I feel like that’s a little red flag about his personality, that he would insist on something so superficial.
I wouldn’t change my style necessarily, but I may lay off the heels for a while if he was my height lol.

posted 8 months ago
 
plasticflowe...
posts: 172

Would I change my style for a guy? Not intentionally.
I dress how I feel like dressing, and have noticed that I sometines dress a little differently around certain people/stages.

posted 7 months ago
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