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SunshineePanda80228
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Okay so I LOVE heels but if I wear em I’m kinda way taller then my boyfriend. I dunno what to do, any advice?

Also how do you feel when your like way taller then the person your with in heel?
Does it bother you/him/her?
HELP!!!!!!

also i’m 5’3 and he’s 5’5 maybe 5’6.

posted over 8 years ago
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frenchieee
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My ex-boyfriend claimed he was 5’9-10. he was REALLY about 5’6, possibly 5’7 with his hair. I’m about 5’5… i could wear my combat boots and be taller than him. embrace the height and wear heels. I also asked him, since i used to wear heels religiously, if he minded that i was taller, he said no, so it obviously wasn’t a problem. My current boyfriend’s 6’3 and almost a foot taller and he likes short girls. Depends on the person I guess.

posted over 8 years ago
 
cassiopeia37
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Is he insecure about it? Cos if he is, you may need to talk about it – you shouldn’t give up heels just for social norms, tho if it makes him uncomfortable then that could say something about the relationship balance – some boys only feel masculine if they’re all imposing and taller lol. But it shouldn’t worry you. Tall = beautiful! and heels are too pretty / make ur legs look too good to give up for a boy ;-D i wear heels 75%+ of the time and can’t go out with a guy shorter than me – event tho i’m 5"9 – which gets a little restrictive sometimes ;-) xxxc

posted over 8 years ago
 
unspoiledbird
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my boyfriend is somewhat of a midget, but i think he’d make fun of me if i pranced around in heels. worst part is, even in his entire midgetness, i could probably never be taller than he is :(

posted over 8 years ago
 
browneyes
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hayleyjade that exists but it’s horrifying, i saw a show about it lol D:

posted over 7 years ago
 
VivaciousVee
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@ unspoiledbird… just curious how tall is your boyfriend?

posted over 7 years ago
 
HandbagsandGladrags
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bah just wear your heels. Embrace your height. It worked for Nicole Kidman; she wasn’t the one bouncing around on a couch.

posted over 7 years ago
 
maliamazing
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just wear the heels

posted over 7 years ago
 
etceteraism
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etceteraism
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I’m 5ft10 and my boyfriend is 5ft11, so if I wear any heels I’m taller than him. But really, I find heels excruciating to wear-I’d much rather wear a pair of flats any day.

posted over 7 years ago
 
DelightfulDecember
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Well I don’t mind being slightly taller, I just hope it doesn’t bother him. XD

posted over 7 years ago
 
maharot1525
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yaay!!! yes i wear heels and I’m taller than my bf!!! but anyways his still love it!!! heels are very sexy!!!

posted over 7 years ago
 
PrincessFero
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well im suprised he said he doesnt care but good for him!! so heels it shall be :p

posted over 7 years ago
 
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Figure out what is sexy for the both of you. My guy is 5’6", and I’m 5’9". If I’m all dolled up and wearing heels, his eyes glow and he loves it. The most important thing is if I feel sexy and beautiful, then he’s going to melt with my energy. I turn this issue inward and ask what do I want? If I want to wear heels, then I let him hold me up and lean my hips into him. He goes crazy and wants the event to be over so he can take me home with him! Long legs are undoubtedly a turn on and heels lengthen!

posted about 5 years ago
 
k6ps
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There may be also one more solution to this, but it requires thinking outside the box, attitude, and courage: the guy could also wear heels. There are a few (way too few) designers who do men’s high heels, e.g. The Damned by Jeffrey Campbell, John Fluevog, Rick Owens, a few cowboys boots makers. Since i discovered mens heels, i wear them quite often. Together with my wife, we can both now adjust our heights with heels in any way we wish and that’s fun :) When i’m on flats and she is on 5 plus inch heels, she is as tall as i am, and i find it sexy. When she is on flats and i’m on 5-inch heels, i’m so much taller that i can take her under my arm very close to me and we can easily walk this way.

posted about 5 years ago
 
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After reading this blog and a few others like it, I thought I would present a few tall women episodes in my life during early 20’s, as I was rejected by the women who chased after the Alfa males and showed no more interest in me than glancing at a blade of grass next to the highway traveling at 75 MPH. And this made me think about my own personal experiences with tall women, a slightly different story from this blog, but same result due to being a Beta male.
I will start with a 6’ tall girl, in a gym, who talked to me with such a look of disinterested she couldn’t have looked or acted more uninterested if she had wanted to. I approached another, who I estimated being 5 foot 9 or 10 inches. She got angry with me for even asking her out and then stuck her finger in my face informing me she didn’t date shorter men. On line, I met a girl 5’11”, and we worked out together once in my apartment complex gym, after that she did not return my two phone calls, there could be others, too, I just don’t remember them all. Now, you may say the rejections were because of my looks, that could be true, but as I approached girls closer to my height, my success rate went way up.
This blog also made me think about the rejections by tall girls, and it angered me, but not at the time the rejection. Only years later, when I actually tallied them up, did I get angry. I was rejected not because I was fat, bald, ugly, deformed or had a rotten personality. No. The reason I was rejected by all of these women was my height.
I did date three women who were significantly taller than me, two at 5’11” and one at 5’10”. (I am 5’8”) And all three happened to be 32 years of age, which is more than a coincidence. No doubt, all three wanted a tall Alfa male, and lost, so a safe Beta male was the next best thing. I didn’t grow any taller, and I doubt I got better looking. These women were past their prime and worried. I was in my late 30’s, at this time of my life, after being married for 10 years. It was also at this time, I could easily date younger women, and I did. When I was 38, my first girlfriend was 27, the next was 27 and the next was 24 who became my second wife. I never dated with any intent of marrying a woman my age. Younger women had no issue with me dating them, and I certainly had no issue dating them. I remember going to singles events and seeing very pretty women, who were my age, who I know 15 years earlier wouldn’t have given me the time of day. And even now, may have looked better than myself, but now it was me who had no interest in approaching them. I did not want to take time and money away from pursuing younger women. Why go old, when I could go young?
I am now married and have 4 sons. I could have provided a good life to any girl. I wanted a taller girl because of the physical turn on and to for fill one of my desires, yet not one single tall girl (in her 20’s) gave me a chance. I was turned down consistently and without a second thought. SO, IF YOU FIND YOURSELF IN YOUR LATE 20’S OR EARLY 30’S WITH NO PROSPECT OF A HUSBAND OR CHILDREN, YOU HAVE NO ONE TO BLAME BUT YOURSELF. There were men like me, who wanted a leggy female, but they, like me, were never accorded the opportunity. (This also applies to average height women, too) And the reality is that the vast majority of tall women will not even consider a shorter man until it is too late. You would think it would be obvious that if you included shorter males in your suitor selection, your odds would increase of finding a mate, for there are a lot more short and medium height males than there are taller ones. So my advice would be to accept the advances of all men and get to know them. I, who would have relished the opportunity of having curvy broad hips and a tapered waist to hold all night and to make love to into the early hours of the morning, was never, not once, even given a chance to start a relationship. Thus, throw away the yardstick, for you may find someone like me, who would love to share his life and love with a leggy lady.
This is a video is a great parody on female obsession over height, too bad you will never see something like this on comedy central. This is worth watching.
https://youtu.be/zBp-Qk9XacY
The web site the video is from is http://heightismandothershit.blogspot.com/
By the way, another tie in with this article and be found at this web site.
shortguycentral.com/P-57/beware-of-the-reformed-heightist-woman
This writer tells about women’s rejections in his 20’s, only to find that women now chased after him, in spite of his height, now he is in his early 30’s. He warns of the dangers of the “REFORMED HEIGHTEST WOMEN” who are desperate after wasting their lives chasing after Alfa males and now want a stable Beta with a steady pay-check.
Here is anther on how women who found the Mr. Average (Beta Males) were worth nothing in their 20’s and now that these women are in their 30’s can’t buy a date, even from the Beta Males, titled “Why women lose in the dating game”
smh.com.au/lifestyle/life/why-women-lose-the-dating-game-20120421-1xdn0.html
During their 20s, women compete for the most highly desirable men, the Mr Bigs. Many will readily share a bed with the sporty, attractive, confident men, while ordinary men miss out. As Whiskey puts it at whiskeysplace.wordpress.com: ''Joe Average Beta Male is about as desirable to women as a cold bowl of oatmeal.''
Here is an interesting article for a women who transgendered to a man, who finds how women treat him poorly due to this height of 5’9”.
libertyviral.com/is-living-life-better-as-a-man-or-woman-a-transgender-tells-hisher-story/
When I identified as female, I was somehow awesome for being on the taller end of femme, but now? Now, I’ve been called a “manlet” for being a hair under average male height – because apparently men get to be treated like shit for something that they can’t control. I’ve also noticed that, while dating women, a lot of them won’t even go NEAR you if you’re under 6 feet tall. Which is bullshit.
As a woman, I was free to be as shitty as I wanted, in personality, as well – in my (very stupid) younger man-hating years, no one was mad, and people even ENCOURAGED me to be a man hater! Now, as a man, I am apparently not even allowed to voice my opinion on women’s rights. Doesn’t matter that I still have breasts, a vagina, and two X chromosomes – nope. Because I pass as male, I have suddenly lost my ability to understand the plight of poor womenfolk.

 

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