Feeling a bit lonesome...

Yup
am with u……..
I am a 17 year old college sophomore (i go to a community college)

Most people are much older than i am….and i think my age mates are really immature.
So pretty much, I am lonely, i just turn to chictopia, fashion websites. movies, online games.
I dont have any friends, my only friends are guys (they know what they want from me)
This one friend i thought was going to be very close to me ( a guy) started asking me to hug him and all sorts i dnt like him that way so i have completely disattached(is that even correct?) myself from him.
My best friend is in Dallas while i am somewhere else.
So pretty much i asked Chictopians if i could ask a girl in my class to the movies and the results were really positive and i did…..so we are going to the movies tomorrow!
Yay
I’m still lonely though. My mum and i used to go shopping a lot but she started work and does not have time for me anymore. Just try to become close to people. Make friends, go clubbing.
I guess i just bombarded u with my own problems huh?

I’m sorry that you feel that way, really. It’s an awful feeling.

I don’t. I feel the same as you, and i have for about the last 5 years. I’ve never felt genuinely close to someone, i can’t say i know what a best friend is. I’ve been able to confide in people but i’ve never been 100% comfortable to the point that i could just kick back, relax and enjoy someones company. I over analyze everything, and honestly people intimidate the heck out of me. All of my life i’ve never had a lot of friends or close friends, i don’t know why. I often even feel uncomfortable around my family. I don’t know what the issue is, maybe i’m just a weird person haha. I have my boyfriend though, and he’s been able to tolerate my social awkwardness for over 2 years so, i’m just happy i have him. And yes, it does bother me. So much. There isn’t a day that goes by that i don’t think about it. I do deal with it, and try to keep it to myself as much as possible, but maybe that’s my problem.

@buky: No, you’re fine. Honestly, it’s kind of a relief when you find out other people are going through the same stuff as you. Usually if I have problems I post on forums to see how other people deal with it, see if I can get an idea how to deal with it myself.

I don’t have the kind of personality that makes people gravitate towards me. I try to mimic other people (it looks natural, don’t worry) so I can become more outgoing, but it seems like when I approach people they are really put off by me. Can’t really say what is causing this. If I do manage to make a friend, everything will be okay for a short while, and then things start going wrong and I start pulling away because it hasn’t become that special friendship that I’ve always wanted. I know no one’s perfect, but it sucks when you feel like you’re putting more effort than the other person.

I feel this way too. It’s not that I don’t have friends because I get on with people well and make friends easily but I find it hard to form close relationships.
I’ve only ever had one close friend that I told everything to but we fell out a couple of months back and no-one else knows me the way she did. I don’t think I’ll have that relationship with anyone else unless I fall in love and have a relationship etc.

Basically. I mean, I supposedly have “best friends,” but all of them seem to be in it more to just have a “best friend.” They all have boyfriends, so needless to say I virtually never see them. Which is why I spent my Friday night alone… and the previous weekends (there’s been four so far this school year), I’ve only interacted socially with people twice.

It’s seriously impossible for me to form good relationships. Every relationship I have with basically every friends is sour and probably negatively impacting me… including that with my sister. She’s my best friend, forever, but even that doesn’t feel like it’s working out too well.

I hate school and the concept of there having to be social groups. Puts a ton of anxiety in me :(

I feel the same way, I live with my boyfriend and spend most of my time with him. When I try to hang out with my best friends something always seems to come up and then I get ditched and I mean my boyfriend doesn’t’ want to hang out with just me all the time so he does his own thing too. So I get lonely but I justed started school last month and started to get along really well with some people in my class so it hasn’t been to bad. But it really sucks when you don’t have anyone to talk to. When I’m angry at my boyfriend who do I talk to? No one really. It really sucks.

I have the same problem. The only person, other than my family members, that I’m really cose to is my Husband. Even then, I don’t get to see my family as much as I should. I don’t see my Husband as much as I would like either. Relationships with my friends aren’t that close either, and when I finally become close with someone, something happens and I am back to square one. I know how it feels doll.

I know exactly what you mean. I have a lot of “friends,” but they seem to enjoy each others’ company more than mine. I only hang out with people maybe one day of the week, if any. I usually end up tagging along with my little sister and her friends.

It really bothers me, but I guess I just think about the fact that in nine months I’ll be in college and have a fresh start.

Well sometimes people who are genuine and who will stick it out with you no matter what is hard to find. I have a few, though over the years the numbers have decreased. It’s a matter of maturing and realizing that some people aren’t as committed to friendships as you are. Thank god for the few close friends I have, my boyfriend being my best friend.

I’m in the same boat as you love. I’m married and the only person I’m close to is my husband, i wish i had couple of girlfriends that i can relate to, hang out with and do all those girly things. I am a 21 year old mom, wife, going to school, perhaps that’s the cause? I’m not sure but i do hope you and i find that girlfriend we need lol.